The First Kiss Could Last ...

The first kiss could last a lifetime. According to the Gallup poll, Gordon Gallup that is, women judge men based on their first kiss. Barbara Miller wrote an article called "Women judge men on the first kiss, study finds" for ABC News in which she quoted Gordon Gallup regarding his findings on the first kiss.

One of my favorite quotes comes from the movie "Hitch". Will Smith says, "60% of all human communication is nonverbal, body language; 30% is your tone, so that means 90% of what you're saying ain't coming out of your mouth." (Copied from the Internet Movie Database). In other words he's saying actions speak louder than words.

My experience, as a woman, agrees with the experts. Some guys that you kiss are like you're kissing your brother. Yuck! Some guys you know what they are after when they kiss you. If a guy makes you see fireworks when he kisses you, marry him! Fireworks lasts a lifetime.

Trust me. When I kissed my husband for the first time I saw fireworks.

Guess what?! We've been married, happily, for over 24 years. We are still on our honeymoon.

Let me tell you how it happened. In the guys world this is romantic. Kurt had invited myself and a few other single people from our church over to watch Sunday football. The little party was arranged because Kurt's favorite football team, the Minnesota Vikings, was playing and it was being shown on the t.v. in San Diego. Back in the early 80's there weren't the sports channels we have now so the Vikings on t.v. in San Diego was a big thing.

Yes, Kurt was a planner/schemer. He had given our son Ben a new train set for Christmas and it was set up in the garage. At half time Kurt lured everyone out to the garage to see the train set. Well I had already seen it so I didn't go. Towards the end of half time, Kurt came back out into the living room where I was all by myself.

The second half of the game started. Our friends were still in the garage.

The Vikings had the ball on their own 30 yard line. I don't know how much Kurt had to pay the Vikings to do this, LOL, but Kurt said to me, "If the Vikings get a touch down on the next play I'll give you a kiss." Well I hadn't had my first kiss yet so eagerly I said, "Okay!". Not knowing the Vikings like I do now, I doubted I would get my first kiss.

The next play the quarterback throws a long bomb for a touch down! Whoo! Hoo! Luckily all our friends were still in the garage playing with the train. I got my first kiss right then and there. Ooo! La! La! Fireworks! Kurt was the only guy who ever made me see fireworks. I'm pretty sure that kiss was what put me into the love category for our relationship even though I didn't tell him that for a while. And now after 24 years of marriage I still see fireworks every now and then when we kiss.

The first kiss could last a lifetime if it's the right one, by Mr. Right.

You might have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your Prince Charming, but the fun is in the trying.

Is there anyone else out there who has seen fireworks when you've been kissed?

Did you marry the guy or did you let him slip away?

Have a great day,
Michelle Rothwell

The Perfect Marriage - You Can Have One Too

Perfection - The state of being without a flaw or defect. Paragon:An ideal instance; a perfect embodiment of a concept. The act of making something perfect.

Wikipedia says Perfection is, broadly, a state of completeness and flawlessness.

Remember the movie Jerry Maguire done in 1996? The scene at the end of the movie where Jerry comes back to the love of his life and he says "You complete me." Jerry was actually saying in a very romantic way, to Dorothy Boyd, you are perfect for me.

Can perfection in marriage be reached or is it some high lofty goal that borders on fantasy?

According to my husband, and I agree with him whole heartedly, perfection in marriage is possible. (I always agree with Kurt, NOT!) The best way to have a perfect marriage is FORGIVENESS.

The more you forgive your partner the more perfect your marriage. You see if you forgive them for everything they do, when they do it, they are perfect. Therefore you can have a perfect marriage because your spouse is perfect.

I know this idea seems too easy but try it. I guarantee you will see a difference in your marriage as well as in yourself.

Looking at the other person through "rose colored" glasses will have you looking at perfection. Just like in the story Snow White. When the Queen kept looking into the magical mirror and asked who was the fairest of them all the response was in her favor. When you forgive your spouse they will then become the "fairest" of them all.

Now don't get me wrong. I'm not saying the men are the only ones that have to do this for their wives. Women you need to adopt the same attitude towards your men. Let's keep things in balance, shall we?

Forgiving your spouse for their wrongs takes the pressure off of everyone working so hard at being perfect. They are then perfect without even trying.

I've heard that when you first marry a person you don't see the real person. Even if you live with them before marriage, which I never recommend, you don't see the real person. If you want to see the real person you're married to, wait seven years and it will all come out. It meaning the real person.

One other point I'd like to make is don't become a door mat in your relationship. Marriage is a partnership and should be 50/50. There always seems to be one person that does most of the forgiving. Don't let that happen. Communicate what you are seeing that is off kilter. Sometimes the other person doesn't realize they aren't a part of the forgiving side. Bring it to their attention but don't attack them with the information. Sit them down and discuss it rationally. Most people want a happy fulfilling marriage. It takes work. Talking to each other about the things that bother us can help to relieve the stress of trying to live with each other. Communication will be a subject for another day.

As far as being a door mat, if you have a cheating spouse, and they do it more than once, GET RID OF THEM FAST! A leopard never changes his/her spots except in Dr. Seuss's books. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. I'm a firm believer once a cheater always a cheater. They actually need professional help because it is a psychological disorder or a family curse.

FORGIVENESS is what it's all about. Forgiveness brings honor and respect to your spouse. These are good things.

Have a perfect marriage,
Michelle Rothwell, Founder
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